Rebuilding confidence after a heart wrenching breakup

Updated on June 15, 2017 in Relationship
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“I CAN’T BELIEVE I ACTUALLY HAVE A CHANCE OF GETTING HIM BACK!”

I woke up the next morning after the heart-wrenching break up and suddenly realized that my lover and best friend was gone. My heart started racing, palms sweating, and the tears never seemed as though they would stop.

The empty feeling of unworthiness was consuming me mentally, emotionally, and physically. I was riddled with the question of what was wrong with me and why I was not capable of finding love?

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A breakup can impact your confidence and self-esteem, and I believe with the right tools, you could rebuild your confidence, and thrive to embrace a new relationship with whatever man comes into your life.

If a person has a negative self-image and generally feels poorly about themselves, they may work tirelessly to find a cure by securing what they believe to be their perfect match resulting in a cycle of working to attain a partner’s desire and feeling high once it is temporarily achieved.

But….when the relationship fails, the high is often followed by a heart-wrenching low.

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THE IMPORTANCE OF SELF LOVE
Self-love is defined as, “regard for one’s own well-being and happiness”.

Until self-love is present, absolute love will become harder to achieve. If you fail to harness your own self-esteem and confidence, then you will latch onto a partner who you’ve placed on a high horse to make up for your self-worth deficit.

When self-love is lacking judgment becomes impaired and desperation may creep in which may result in an inaccurate assessment of who the person really is and if he can truly meet your needs is off.

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When partners are viewed as idols in your mind, the illusion is destined to dissolve, leaving the person depleted and with a greater sense of inadequacy. Hence, the heart-wrenching break up.

You can restore your damaged self-esteem using positive affirmations to remind yourself of your great qualities. This is about increasing your self-worth and value system. You will be able to set boundaries and call out those things that don’t work for you. People will treat you the way you allow them. If you are unable to respect yourself, don’t expect others to do the same.

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Employing these self-esteem affirmations will make a difference between tears and laughter;

  • I love and accept myself unconditionally
  • I am enough
  • I am loved
  • I believe in myself
  • I project love and respect and will receive them in return
  • I am free to make my own decisions
  • I respect myself
  • I do not have anything to prove to anyone
  • I am never alone. God and the universe support me every step I take.
  • I reject any negative thoughts
  • I deserve happiness and success
  • I release the past and live in the moment
  • I’m worthy of love
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At times we may have unrealistic expectations we place on our partners, or we try to take too much control of things we shouldn’t, or we have a selfish perspective. This leads to building stories in our mind, and they can sometimes spiral out of control.

We like to believe that we are enlightened and that others need to see our perspective. Changing your perspective is a very valuable took for understanding a situation better, avoiding false views, and building confidence. The most common and important situation in which we benefit form looking at others from a different viewpoint is when we try to see something from another person’s view point.

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One approach I like when it seems necessary to criticize someone’s behavior is to use “I” statements instead of “you” statements. Instead of saying, “you were wrong about that” I say, “I have a different opinion about that”.

Changing the way you word things can encourage the other person to put him or herself in your position. We have a better chance of having a healthy discussion if they think our statements as information rather than an argument.

Much of the value of looking at an issue from another person’s point of view is that it helps us recognize and compensation for our own biases.

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Pain is inevitable after a heart-wrenching break up. Suffering is optional. You can wallow in sorrow or embrace self-love, employ positive affirmations, and shift perspectives.

These ingredients will give you benefits for better real life results, higher self-esteem, more inner happiness, peace, and more positive relationships with yourself and others. As you love yourself more, your confidence will grow higher and higher.

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I invite you to choose to understand other’s point of view using these methods:

Put yourself in another person’s shoes
Trust the bigger picture through the process
Think positively and take positive takes
Use “I” statements instead of “You” statements
Observe before taking actions

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Once you love yourself, then others will be attracted to you because they will see the best of you and the value you place on yourself; and you will feel the worthiness, and reality of having a partner’s love and respect. Don’t force love and allow it happen organically and naturally.

Believe in yourself that matters of the heart will work out for your ultimate good!!!

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